Love a little part 2
So I started writing on this topic yesterday and I just had to much to say on it, that I had to write a part two.Usually the sequel is never as good as the first, but I will attempt to keep you intrigued ,or at least mildly entertained.
So I ended off by asking what love really means to you?Well I will start by answering what it means to me.Love firstly is not self centered, but others-centred.I just love this very famous quote that "if you love something you have to let it go and if it comes back its yours". Now I don't think I really ever knew what that really meant,it was just a nice quote that sounded kinda romantic,but if you really look at the meaning and try to understand it for what it is you will come to realise that its not really that romantic and it carries a deep truth.True love is not all roses and chocolates.Sometimes we claim to love somebody, but if their happiness depended on you not being part of their lives will you be able to comply?will you love that person enough to put their happiness before your own?I see this a lot with young and in love couples, where they claim they will move heaven and earth for their lover ,but if it comes down to it will you be able to move yourself in the name of love?Its very easy to make such declarations when you still receive a benefit from the relationship.However the moment you happy buzz is over (give or take two years),than you just dont feel the same any more and we throw lines such as "its not you its me" ,"I think we need to take a break" or "I just dont FEEL the same way about you anymore".We become so ready to discard that person at a whimp because we dont feel the same way?That is the reason why we have so many broken hearted people that ether want vengence or redemption.We live in a time where we don't work to fix something, but simply replace it when it does not suite us anymore.You wanna know why we have such high divorce rates,its because people feel too much love and don't do love.Love is something you do,that you work on whether you feel like it, a commitement to stick through and still be selfless even when it hurts.Now dont get me wrong I am not saying you should stick through abuse and such, I am saying if Love performed in its true sence from BOTH parties it leaves a healthy, growing relationship.When you live to meet the people you love needs and they live to meet yours, than there wont be a need to abuse.
I do however recognise our human weaknesses,but if we know the template of love, we can work and build on it.Always ask yourself " if I could physically see Jesus in the room when I behave a certain way would I still continue doing it?"
I have had my fair share of failed relationships,ideas of love that bordered on obsession and notions of love that was completely unbiblical .I made the bible work for me and I did not allow God to first transform my heart and renew my mind.We can have transformed hearts,but without a renewed mind to think God's thoughts on love and life, we will always struggle with the love game and sadly always get it wrong.
So I ended off by asking what love really means to you?Well I will start by answering what it means to me.Love firstly is not self centered, but others-centred.I just love this very famous quote that "if you love something you have to let it go and if it comes back its yours". Now I don't think I really ever knew what that really meant,it was just a nice quote that sounded kinda romantic,but if you really look at the meaning and try to understand it for what it is you will come to realise that its not really that romantic and it carries a deep truth.True love is not all roses and chocolates.Sometimes we claim to love somebody, but if their happiness depended on you not being part of their lives will you be able to comply?will you love that person enough to put their happiness before your own?I see this a lot with young and in love couples, where they claim they will move heaven and earth for their lover ,but if it comes down to it will you be able to move yourself in the name of love?Its very easy to make such declarations when you still receive a benefit from the relationship.However the moment you happy buzz is over (give or take two years),than you just dont feel the same any more and we throw lines such as "its not you its me" ,"I think we need to take a break" or "I just dont FEEL the same way about you anymore".We become so ready to discard that person at a whimp because we dont feel the same way?That is the reason why we have so many broken hearted people that ether want vengence or redemption.We live in a time where we don't work to fix something, but simply replace it when it does not suite us anymore.You wanna know why we have such high divorce rates,its because people feel too much love and don't do love.Love is something you do,that you work on whether you feel like it, a commitement to stick through and still be selfless even when it hurts.Now dont get me wrong I am not saying you should stick through abuse and such, I am saying if Love performed in its true sence from BOTH parties it leaves a healthy, growing relationship.When you live to meet the people you love needs and they live to meet yours, than there wont be a need to abuse.
I do however recognise our human weaknesses,but if we know the template of love, we can work and build on it.Always ask yourself " if I could physically see Jesus in the room when I behave a certain way would I still continue doing it?"
I have had my fair share of failed relationships,ideas of love that bordered on obsession and notions of love that was completely unbiblical .I made the bible work for me and I did not allow God to first transform my heart and renew my mind.We can have transformed hearts,but without a renewed mind to think God's thoughts on love and life, we will always struggle with the love game and sadly always get it wrong.
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